It’s no secret that dating today absolutely sucks. Finding love has become a part-time job for those who want to date with purpose. First are the dating apps that are starting to prove to be less and less effective. Then there are the reduced opportunities to meet people if you’re not an outgoing person. Lastly, blind date is becoming a thing of the past because no one wants to be responsible for your next failed relationship.
However, if you are still motivated to get out there and date, there are some tips that men can use to attract and find love. Women today are more independent than ever. They outnumber men almost 2 to 1 for active singles but get hit on constantly and mostly by married men. So, they have, rightfully so, some issues with the process of dating.
Remember, women have seen it all, heard it all, and can spot a player a mile away. If you are trying to date with the true intention of creating a meaningful relationship, there are things you can do to stand out from the crowd and make her want you, if you so desire.
THE PERFECT COMPLIMENT
Women have heard a ton of one-liners and comments from men. So, they are almost too prepared to deny men a chance to communicate beyond a “hello.” The perfect complement today is not to compliment them at all.
When you meet a woman you might be interested in, walk up to her, and start a conversation about anything other than her beauty or body. Because she has heard that she is beautiful from everyone, try to stay away from that compliment. Find something else you can bond with her over. She will appreciate the fact that you didn’t comment on her physical attributes and will become interested in you.
This will allow you to begin to frame the relationship on something other than her if you only want sex. There are other ways to compliment her, e.g., communication, education, choices in food, and how she interacts with people around her — but stay away from commenting on her looks or body. You will get farther than you think.
NEVER DOUBLE TEXT
Once there is an exchange of numbers, there is a proper way to communicate through texting. Women expected to be pursued. They are often texted by multiple men if they are single. If you are going to leave a lasting impression, you must never double-text. Double texting is when you send a message, don’t get a response for a certain period, and then send a second text following the first one. In fact, men who allow periods of time between texting develop a higher level of interest in the women they text.
Texting is now a large part of the dating process. Some women prefer talking and some prefer texting. If you would like the relationship to advance, don’t overcommunicate with her. That way, she’ll crave your voice, and eventually you.
DRIVING FROM THE DRIVER’S SEAT
The feminist movement has created an entire culture of women who are proud, independent, and career-driven. So, when they meet a man, they are checking to see if he can lead them. Leading them in life, decision-making, and protection.
If you’re looking to attract a mentally strong woman, you can never surrender your position as a man. This means mentally or physically. Don’t let her drive you when traveling anywhere. Don’t drive her in her car until after you have driven her in your car. If you relinquish this position, it is only a matter of time before you are devalued in her mind.
Strong independent women, whether they admit it or not, do need men who can lead and protect. They might say that they don’t, but when they meet a man who exhibits the proper characteristics of a strong dominant man, they will begin to soften and allow him to lead.
AN UNEXPECTED GIFT AT AN UNEXPECTED TIME
There is nothing like making a good first impression. For men who want to date amazing women, keeping their interest will be paramount. To build and maintain a positive impression, make sure to listen when she is talking. Women will tell you to want they want, and need, through conversation. Strong women will not ask for anything.
Strong women will communicate their desires while hanging out, window shopping, and enjoying spending time with you. If you can capture those moments by remembering her Starbucks order, picking up her favorite lunch, or going to her choice of restaurants, you’ll win favorability with her and then win her heart.
An unexpected gift at an unexpected time means that you are attuned to her on a deeper level. It means that you are paying attention to her like no man ever has, which will create a bond wherein she’ll begin to desire you.
Her desire for you is the goal. You want to find a woman who chooses you, instead of you choosing her. But it all starts with you. If you can work on some of these suggestions, it might increase your chances of dating the woman you want.
Dating today requires introspection, self-assessment, and work. It requires an understanding of who you are and a deeper understanding of who you want to attract. But success can be yours if you practice the right approaches to get her attention and keep it. Happy hunting. ●
