The old saying that nice guys finish last has never been truer in today’s dating climate. Women have never been clearer about what they prefer with the choices they make in who they date. And the clear winner is not the good guy.
For the good guys, dating in 2023 is a no-win situation. Opening the door, pulling out the chair, and walking on the outside of the street when strolling are no longer seen as acts of chivalry. Prince Charming is dead, and feminism killed him.
“If a guy opened my door or treated me like a queen, I don’t even know if I would recognize it,” Tanisha of Fredericksburg, Virginia said. “I was not raised to expect that kind of treatment and would be shocked if I got it.”
That clearly defines the problem men are encountering today when trying to treat the modern-day woman like a queen. Recognition of good-guy behavior is, quite often, not acknowledged by women because they don’t see it. If they do see it, it’s not appreciated as a quality they desire. Quite often, positive behavior is seen as an act of weakness, thus throwing the man in the friend zone.
“I have tried to be nice to women when I date them, but it keeps putting me in the friend zone and I don’t know what to do,” Charles, from Las Vegas, said. “I notice that the women I like, do not like me and then I see them dating knuckleheads which confuses me.”
Women tend to choose the person who excites them. Chivalry is boring by today’s standards. If you are the kind of person who likes to treat a woman well, here are some tips on how to get out of the friend zone.
LEVEL UP
One of the best ways to stay out of the friend zone is to increase your value. Take a break from trying to date and get in shape. Work on your income. Advance your wardrobe and create more value for yourself. The better man you become, the higher quality woman you will attract.
It’s very hard to chase women and money at the same time. Choose to create more revenue for yourself so that when you do find the right woman, you can afford to date her. Often, men will not be able to attract the woman they want because they haven’t elevated to the right level, thus attracting a lower quality woman who doesn’t see their value.
BECOME UNAVAILABLE
Men who are thrown into the friend zone often will make the mistake of being too available. This creates a situation where they are now offering friend-type access to themselves, which allows the woman to only see them as a friend. For you, go several days without being available. Don’t offer any friendship-type services for the woman you’re attracted to. Rides, money, advice, and dating as “friends” create a losing battle for the man.
Make sure you establish that you’re not seeking friendship, but looking to be more than friends. If that advance is not accepted
by the woman, move on from the relationship. Men need to practice setting boundaries for their time, money, and energy if they are going to become attractive to the opposite sex.
BECOME MORE SELECTIVE
One of the best ways to reduce being placed in the friend zone is to become more selective about the type of woman you’re attracted to. Men are visual people and most often are attracted to beautiful women. But this can create a situation where men are picking the wrong type of woman.
Men need to create a standard of values that they covet in a woman. After they determine what kinds of values they seek, they need to begin to ask more qualifying questions when speaking with potential dating mates. They’ll find more women of substance who might share some of the same characteristics and values and thus get better matches.
BEING ALONE VS. IN THE ZONE
One of the hardest things to master is the art of being alone. Men need to understand that learning to be alone will help when it comes to picking success or failure. Men will often make poor decisions when it comes to trying to date women as opposed to choosing to be alone. Learning to be alone can be one of the most positive things a man can do for himself before he chooses to put his energy into a woman who doesn’t want him.
Time spent alone creates a standard that men will use when deciding that being alone is better than being unhappy. Loving yourself is the best way to find the right person. When attempting to date, if spending time with her is not as good as spending time with yourself, then don’t do it. Learning how to be alone will create confidence, standards, and peace. If the woman can’t maintain those standards, then she’s not the one.
IN CONCLUSION
It is very difficult to recognize the behavior of not getting caught in the friend zone. Men are creatures of habit, and it will take time to see the results they desire when it comes to dating. Remember, if you want to be in love, you are going to have to fall in love with yourself first. Only, and only after you increase your own value, will you begin to see other women appreciate your value as well. Happy hunting. ●
The old saying that nice guys finish last has never been truer in today’s dating climate. Women have never been clearer about what they prefer with the choices they make in who they date. And the clear winner is not the good guy.
For the good guys dating in 2023 is a no-win situation. Opening the door, pulling out the chair, and walking on the outside of the street when walking are no longer seen as acts of chivalry. Prince Charming is dead, and feminism killed him.
“If a guy opened my door or treated me like a queen, I don’t even know if I would recognize it,” Tanisha of Fredericksburg, Virginia said. “I was not raised to expect that kind of treatment and would be shocked if I got it.”
That clearly defines the problem that men encounter today when trying to treat the modern-day woman like a queen. Recognition of good-guy behavior is, quite often, not acknowledged by women because they do not see it. If they do see it, it is not appreciated as a quality they desire. Quite often, positive behavior is seen as an act of weakness, thus throwing the man in the friend zone.
“I have tried to be nice to women when I date them, but it keeps putting me in the friend zone and I do not know what to do,” Charles, from Las Vegas said. “I notice that the women I like, do not like me and then I see them dating knuckleheads which confuses me.”
Women tend to choose the person that excites them. Chivalry is boring by today’s standards. If you are the kind of person who likes to treat a woman well, here are some tips on how to get out of the friend zone.
LEVEL UP
One of the best ways to stay out of the friend zone is to increase your value. Take a break from trying to date and get in shape. Work on your income. Advance your wardrobe and create more value for yourself. The better man you become, the higher quality woman you will attract.
It is very hard to chase women and money at the same time. Choose to create more revenue for yourself so that when you do find the right woman, you can afford to date her. Often men will not be able to attract the woman they want because they have not elevated to the right level, thus attracting a lower quality woman who does not see their value.
BECOME UNAVAILABLE
Men who are thrown into the friend zone often will make the mistake of being too available. This creates a situation where you are now offering friend-type access to yourself which allows her to see you only as a friend. Go for several days without being available. Do not offer any friendship-type services to the woman you are attracted to. Rides, money, advice, and dates as friends create a losing battle for the man.
Make sure you establish that you are not seeking friendship, but are looking to be more than friends. If that advance is not accepted by the woman, you are to move on from the relationship. Men need to practice setting boundaries for their time, money, and energy if they are going to become attractive to the opposite sex.
BECOME MORE SELECTIVE
One of the best ways to reduce being placed in the friend zone is to become more selective about the type of woman you are attracted to. Men are visual people and most often are attracted to beautiful women. But this can create a situation where men are picking the wrong type of woman.
Men need to create a standard of values that they covet in a woman. After they determine what kinds of values they seek, they need to begin to ask more qualifying questions when speaking with their potential dating mates. They will find more women of substance who might share some of the same characteristics and thus get better matches.
BEING ALONE VS IN THE ZONE
One of the hardest things to master is the art of being alone. Men need to understand that learning to be alone will help when it comes to picking success or failure. Men will often make poor decisions when it comes to trying to date women as opposed to choosing to be alone. Learning to be alone can be one of the most positive things a man can do before he chooses to put his energy into a woman who does not want him.
Time spent alone creates a standard that men will use when deciding if being alone is better than being unhappy. Loving yourself is the best way to find the right person. When attempting to date, if spending time with her is not as good as spending time with yourself, then do not do it. Learning how to be alone will create confidence, standards, and peace. If the woman cannot maintain those standards, then she is not the one.
IN CONCLUSION
It is very difficult to recognize the behavior of not getting caught in the friend zone. Men are creatures of habit, and it will take time to see the results you desire when it comes to dating. Remember, if you want to be in love, you are going to have to fall in love with yourself first. Only, and only after you increase your own value, will you begin to see other women appreciate your value as well. Happy hunting. ●
