The dream for a man when looking for his queen is to meet an amazing looking woman who has the ability to care for him the way his mother does. Men do not require much, but physical attributes dominate his desires.
What men are finding when looking for a woman with the physical appearance of a 10 is that they often come with qualities that are less than attractive. Most men are finding that if a woman has a high level of attraction, she also comes with a high level of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).
PTSD is a mental health condition that can develop after someone experiences or witnesses a traumatic event. Symptoms include:
Negative thoughts and emotions: Such as fear, anger, guilt, shame, or negative thoughts about oneself or the world
Re-experiencing the event: Such as flashbacks, nightmares, or frightening thoughts
Avoidance: Such as staying away from places, events, or objects that remind the person of the trauma
Arousal and reactivity: Such as feeling irritable, taking risks, or acting self-destructive.
While the term is typically used for soldiers coming back from combat, it is now also being used to define anyone with some level of long-term, catastrophic turmoil. Being in a mentally or physically abusive relationship can be considered in the category of having PTSD.
So while it might appear that physically attractive women seem to suffer more from
PTSD than average-looking women, estimates from community studies suggest that women experience PTSD at two to three times the rate that men do.
About 8 of every 100 women (or 8%) and 4 of every 100 men (or 4%) will have PTSD at some point in their life. This is in part due to the types of traumatic events that women are more likely to experience—such as sexual assault—compared to men.
If left untreated PTSD can create issues in someone’s daily life. Women with PTSD may be more likely to be easily startled. Have more trouble feeling emotions or feel numb. Avoid things that remind them of the trauma.
Sometimes having PTSD will keep a woman from the ability to move on the past due to the fact that they continue to
relive the trauma on a daily basis. They also will feel uncomfortable if they attempt to cure themselves of the pain on their own.
Seeking professional help is always recommended for anyone who struggles with moving on from a past situation or traumatic lifestyle.
There are many ways to cope with mental trauma, including:
Self-care: Maintain a healthy diet, get enough sleep, and exercise regularly. You can also try meditation, deep breathing, or spending time in nature.
Connect with others: Talk to trusted friends and family, or join a support group for trauma survivors. You can also try volunteering to help others and feel a sense of purpose.
Get back to routine: Try to do the things you normally do, even if you don’t feel like it.
Avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms: Don’t isolate yourself, sleep excessively, or use substances to escape.
Seek professional help: A mental health professional can help you learn to manage your symptoms and cope with the effects of trauma. They can also help treat other problems that may arise, such as depression or anxiety.
Be patient: Most people recover from traumatic stress on their own over time. It can take a few days, weeks, or even months to feel better.
So while men assume that tens have more trauma than everyone else, they need to pay attention to whomever they are dating, because anyone can suffer from a long-term bad relationship.
If you find yourself dating a woman who has suffered from trauma or currently exhibits the effects of PTSD are some things that you can do.
Practice mindfulness and meditation. Help them engage in regular exercise and movement, and build healthy relationships, you can help them take important steps towards letting go of trauma and moving forward with their life.
Become a supportive partner for the woman you are dating to help them heal from the trauma they have experienced. If not,
