It’s no secret that men like sex. What is even less of a secret is that women like sex, too. However, there is a huge difference between how men and women approach the art of wanting and enjoying sex. For men, the process of wanting sex is simple: we want it all the time. But with women, the process takes more time. And because men want it more, ultimately, we need to do a better job of creating an environment where women crave it more also.
There are several things men can do to excite women into wanting more sex. The overall process is 50 percent mental and 50 percent physical. If you want to create a better bedroom experience with your lover, you will need to do both equally.
MIND#*&K HER
If you want to create an inviting space for her to get busy, you first need to start with her mind. Pay attention to her needs and find the time to listen to her when she speaks. Being on your cell phone constantly looking at it can easily irritate her, so put it down. Remember: magical sex starts way before you get to the
You can begin foreplay by doing thoughtful things for her like opening her car door or pulling her seat out when sitting down to dinner. Great relaxing conversation always sets the right mood. Basically, you need to become more attentive and way more receptive to her desires and needs outside the bedroom if you expect to please her in the bedroom.
COMMUNICATION
Women expect some level of stimulating conversation when in a relationship. Today, some men might consider texting in broken sentences a form of communication. You might be surprised to find that women loathe constant texting without some form of verbal communication. Great communication includes periodic phone calls to keep the flame alive and interest going.
Also, make sure you offer different levels and types of communication — and be authentic, not superficial. Women see right through to a man’s desire to just have sex and the last thing they want to feel is that they’re only a means to an end. So, talking about work is cool but find other things to discuss as the evening goes on, especially those things that are of specific interest to her or the both of you.
LOVE LANGUAGE
The art of understanding how your partner communicates their love is one of the best ways to create more excitement in the bedroom. For women, if they’re mentally into you, they’ll become just as into you physically. Knowing that, you need to find out how to best provide them with the things that they want. There are five love languages: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts. Once you understand her love language, create the environment to provide for those needs. It will help you get what you want faster.
These are just a few suggestions to mentally put her in the right place to receive pleasure. Women also need to have a relaxed, non-stressed environment if they are going to be able to have the space to need or want physical pleasure. So, if you have drama with the ex, if you
live with your mom, or if you cannot afford to provide for a safe, fun experience, you may want to wait until these things are cleaned up.
After you have created a meaningful situation for her mentally you still need to work on the physical aspect of pleasuring your mate. Women climax during intercourse only 25 percent of the time. If you’re going to create more desire in the relationship where she craves you physically, you are going to need to understand her actual needs in the bedroom.
SLOW DOWN
Women want to be romanced. The reason you had to sit through five rom-coms before she’ll have sex with you is because she wants to revel in the fantasy. Women want to feel appreciated. This means that you need to take your time and provide an experience that’s lasting. Consider a soothing massage to set the tone. Physical touch starts way before the bedroom, but a massage sets the tone for what is to come. Massaging her allows you to touch her all over and for her to relax and mentally prepare for sex.
GO DOWN ON HER
If you are going to create a meaningful sexual experience, you’ll need to broaden your skills concerning how you provide pleasure. Because women climax only 25 percent of the time through intercourse, adding cunnilingus to your game is going to increase her chances of climaxing.
First, the science. A woman’s clitoris has about 6,000 to 8,000 nerve endings — and its only purpose is pleasure! Only about a quarter of the clitoris is visible outside the body. There is an internal female erectile network, all comprised of erectile tissue. The clitoral shaft has “legs” that extend, and under the outer labia are two big wads of engageable erogenous tissue called the paired vestibular bulbs. All of this means that a woman’s body is primed for pleasure — if you know what you are doing.
Now the act! Take her hips and place them on something soft. A pillow or folded towel so you can lick on, around, and under her clitoris. Make sure you lick as she moves. Follow her lead so she can develop her pleasure until she climaxes. It takes about twenty minutes of stimulation for a female to climax, so understand that going into it. If you can master this, you will become superman to her in the bedroom, thus increasing her desire for you physically.
PENIS SIZE DOESN’T MATTER
The one known fact that women all seem to share is that size does not matter. If a man can use his tool the right way, he can satisfy his lover. Make sure you understand her favorite positions and how she likes to be treated in bed. Some women like seduction and some women like romance. The better you understand her physical needs, the more times you’ll have her desiring sex with you. Remember, half the battle was getting to this point, so capitalize on that and take things to the heights of ecstasy for both of you.
These are just some of the tips that can have your plus one wanting more and more of you, naked, if you know what I mean. So live and learn and create the dream for her so that you can be sexually fulfilled, too. ֍
